8 Tips to Help with Holiday Grief

November 11, 2026

As the holidays approach, the absence of a loved one reminds us that this season is not going to be the same as last year. It can be a time of mental worry about what the season may bring. This may be especially difficult when friends, and even family think, “you should be over it by now.”

The holidays are a reminder of memories and traditions. It is important to have a plan for small changes that may help decrease stress, while still honoring the holidays, and passed loved ones. These tips may help you through the season.

  1. Realistically examine how much energy you may have and make plans and communicate accordingly. Grieving is exhausting. 

  2. Be flexible and open to changes.

  3. Consider ordering food or going to a restaurant for your holiday meals.

  4. Give yourself permission to take on less responsibilities and allow others to help.

  5. Explore the opportunity to make some new traditions.

  6. Give to an angel tree in your loved one’s memory.

  7. When invited to a party, say that you hope to attend. It is okay to not attend or leave when you want.

  8. Make a toast to honor your loved one or write a note for them in a card to place with holiday decorations or with memorial items. 


While the holidays are difficult, sharing about the life and memories of your loved one can be meaningful learning experiences and help cope during the holiday season.


Our grief care services are for anyone in the community who has experienced a loss. Discover how our team can help you and your family by contacting us through our website or calling 855.492.0812.




By Mary McKenzie, CSW, ACSW, ACHP-SW
Bereavement Counselor  |   Bluegrass Care Navigators

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