How Long Will My Grief Last?
After a loss, many people ask the universal question: “How long will my grief last?” This is especially true for a first loss. Some people ask for ways to hurry through the grieving process, but there is no shortcut. It is difficult to accept that one has little control, but with grief work, the sense of loss can slowly improve.
Many factors influence the duration of grief, such as:
- The type of loss (sudden, natural or traumatic)
- The length of illness of the person that passed
- The age and health status of the survivor
Additionally, previous losses, social support, resources, and a faith belief system can make a difference in the grief journey.
Even with all these factors, time is really the major force. The first year offers several opportunities to face difficult special days such as holidays and anniversaries. Many may notice a slight increase in their grief as the one-year anniversary approaches. This is very normal.
Many people assume that grief will be better by one year, and for many losses it is. Spouse loss can sometimes take one to two years to fully adapt emotionally. Loss from a traumatic death can take longer. Mainstream media tends to glamorize “closure,” which is an unrealistic outcome. There is no such thing as true closure, just better adjustment and coping with griefwork and time.
Grief processing will take a natural course over time, yet it can become more comfortable with the support of grief counseling.
Our grief care services are for anyone in the community who has experienced a loss. Discover how our team can help you and your family by contacting us through our website or calling 855.492.0812.
By Mary McKenzie, CSW, ACSW, ACHP-SW
Bereavement Counselor | Bluegrass Care Navigators
